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How to Recover from a Fumble at Work

Posted in Coaching, Office Help, Professional Tips, Self Help by Jeff
Mar 29 2011

Let’s be honest: we all make the occasional mistake at work.  Some of us, more than others.

I prefer to call them “fumbles” because it just sounds nicer. Some people say things “fell through the cracks” or they “dropped the ball”. Whatever you call it, making a mistake at work is a stressful, frustrating experience.

You were late to a meeting. You forgot the report. You didn’t read the memo. Most people make similar slip-ups on the job. Yes, it happens to all of us from time to time. The important thing to remember is that mistakes cannot simply be ignored. They must be dealt with.  However, if you’ve been making some major mistakes at work, it’s time to make changes to avoid dire consequences. How you deal with and recover from your mistakes can say lot about your character and your work ethic.

Here are a few pointers for how to handle the inevitable (though hopefully occasional) fumble:

Acknowledge Your Mistake Immediately

Time is of the essence when dealing with a fumble. Once you’ve realized that there is problem, consider who will be impacted by your actions (or lack thereof).  What will the result be for them?  Approach them immediately with honesty about what has taken place. Be straight forward and concise. Don’t beat around the bush and don’t wait. Often, we get in the habit of thinking no one will notice or we just hold our breath that circumstances will change and the mistake will no longer be important. That might work on the rare occasion. But consider the time it doesn’t work and the problem explodes. Do you want people coming back to you asking why you didn’t notify them of your mistake earlier? Acknowledging your mistake to the appropriate parties allows them the opportunity to:

a) Help in fixing the problem

b) Prepare for damage due to the mistake

c) Prevent further damage from being done

Don’t Give Long Winded Excuses

No one really cares about what caused the mistake. Sure, you and your boss might go over it again in the future in an effort to determine how to prevent it from happening again, but right now, people only care about one thing and that is dealing with it (i.e. accessing and fixing the damage done while also preventing further damage). Giving a long, drawn out excuse only makes it look like you’re trying to rationalize your fumble. Keep the reason for why it happened short unless it is absolutely necessary.

Don’t Blame Others

While it’s tempting to give a long, detailed explanation of why the mistake happened, it’s even more tempting to slide a few other people into the mix so you don’t look solely responsible. Let me tell you now that people see right through that. Even if you aren’t the only person responsible for the fumble, step up and take the responsibility. Your team mates will appreciate it and remember your loyalty in the future.

Bring Solutions

Take initiative. Go in the office early.  As soon as soon as you arrive at the office, take as many actions as you can to start solving the problem. If your bosses are not in yet, then it’s the perfect time to find some things you can do to begin the process of recovery. Think about how to resolve the situation. Also, consider future problems that could happen as a result of your mistake. Take solutions with you when you address the mistake with co-workers or supervisors.

Apologize Then Move On

Upon realizing the error that had occurred, resist the temptation to bury your head in the sand and instead immediately call your bosses’ attention to the problem and apologize. It’s important to say that you’re sorry. No one wants to mess up but it still helps others to hear that you don’t feel good about it. They are then more likely to feel a desire to help out. One word of caution though: don’t overdo it. Nothing is more frustrating than someone who continues to apologize over and over again. Say it once, then, move on.

Learn From the Experience

You can do good work from that point on, by learning what you did wrong.  Sometimes the only good thing to come out of a mistake is the lesson it teaches you.  If you know that your boss is not happy with what you did, then you know what your boss would love to see now.  It’s like reverse directions and believe me, these lessons are engrained in your psyche. It’s such an awful and uncomfortable experience, you won’t soon forget it. More than likely, you’ll be replaying exactly what happened and how a million times in your head. That’s good! It will help you identify the problem and prevent it from happening again. But don’t be too hard on yourself. Remember that we’re all human and life is nothing but a series of lessons.

Oops I did it again now what?

Focus on Your Professional Development

Often when one makes multiple mistakes, employers have doubts about the employee’s future performance. Move forward and spend extra time on the details to avoid future errors.  Follow up with your boss. After a period of time, schedule a meeting with your boss to review your performance.  Ask for feedback and prove that you want to grow from this experience. If you think that you are still being looked at too closely for comfort because of this mistake then ask your boss if you can attend a seminar, training or other professional development event.  If they say no and site funds as a reason, then offer to pay for this event out of pocket. After attending the event, present your findings to your department and your boss to let them see that you learned your lesson and made something better in the end.

JEFF

Tagged as: Fumbles, help, Mistakes, Recovery, Success, Tips, troubles, work

15 Ways to Work on Being Happy

Posted in Coaching, Self Help

As a coach, a lot of times I get asked, if I myself am Happy and what (or who) makes me happy. That’s not as easy to answer as it might seem. Yes, I am happy. I am happier then I have been in a long time, I hope to be happier someday. As for who or what makes me Happinesshappy. Well, only I can make myself happy, but I choose to let my life be a happy one and accept the good as good and the bad as learning experiences.  That is not the same as saying my boys make me happy or that Ann makes me happy.  In a way they do by my relationship with them, but they are not the depending factors on my internal happiness.  I have had some post cards I made a long time ago as flash cards I keep to remind me of Happiness and I want to share with you those. I do apologize now if someone knows where these came from I would love to give full credit. I just don’t know for sure where they all came from.  I have tweaked most of them in a way that makes sense to me and way and added a few. Ultimately though, here are the things that are key to being happy.

1. Forget the past

One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.
Rita Mae Brown

You won’t be happy if you carry the burden of the past. Did you make mistakes? Did you have terrible experiences? Whatever they are, you should let them go. There’s nothing you can do about the past, so you’d better let them go and focus your energy on the present.

2. Take responsibility for your life

The secret of Happiness is Freedom, and the secret of Freedom, Courage.
Thucydides

The most essential freedom is the freedom to choose. No matter how bad a situation is, you can always choose how you respond to it. People can annoy you, but it’s up to you whether or not you will resent.

But, as the quote above says, freedom takes courage. Freedom to choose requires the courage to take responsibility for your life. Don’t blame someone else when something goes wrong. Take the responsibility and you have the power to choose.

3. Build relationships

Life’s truest happiness is found in friendships we make along the way.
Unknown

The reason is simple: only through relationships can we love and be loved.  Make relationships your top priority and you are on your way to true happiness.  Bad relationships can destroy your chances of happiness so go back to #2.

4. Develop multiple passions

The more passions and desires one has, the more ways one has of being happy.
Charlotte-Catherine

Passions lead you to happiness. So not only should you discover your multiple passions, you should also expand yourself to new passions. This way you will create new ways to happiness.

The key is curiosity. If you are curious, you will have an endless stream of exciting things waiting for you.

5. Build your character

Character is the basis of happiness and happiness the sanction of character.
George Santayana

Building your character is essential for happiness. When you are true to yourself and others, you will be in peace.

The way to start building character is by making promises and keeping them. For example, you make promise, you keep it, you build your character.

6. Be who you are

The summit of happiness is reached when a person is ready to be what he is.
Desiderius Erasmus

You can only be happy if you become who you are. Don’t live other people’s life by trying to meet their expectations. People may expect you to have certain job or certain way of living but don’t be intimidated by them. Find who you are and be yourself.

7. Live your life purpose

The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose.
William Cowper

To have a fulfilling life, you should find your life purpose and follow it faithfully. Find what matters to you and build the courage to follow it. Having a one-liner will help you internalize and communicate your mission.

8. Count your blessings

Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.
Unknown

Being happy is easy if we are grateful. Unfortunately, seeing what we don’t have is often easier than seeing what we have. Sometimes we need to experience loss before appreciating what we have. So don’t take things for granted. Look at what you have and soon you will have plenty of reasons to be happy.

9. Have positive mind

It is not the place, nor the condition, but the mind alone that can make anyone happy or miserable.
Roger L’Estrange

Happy people know how to control their mind. They don’t let negative thoughts come in. While a situation may seem bad to others, happy people look at them in a positive way. They always believe that no matter how bad a situation seems, there is always something positive to take from it. Your mind can make or break you, so guard it well.

10. Work creatively

Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.
Franklin D. Roosevelt

When you work creatively on something you will find happiness. There is a well-known phenomenon regarding this called flow. When you are in the state of flow, you are fully focused on the task at hand that you no longer realize the passage of time. This state of flow allows you to achieve high productivity and being happy at the same time.  “Use the force Luke.” “In the Zone.” There is a reason these sayings are timeless.

11. Change

They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.
Confucius

Being happy requires you to constantly grow. In fact, the process of learning itself is essential for happiness. Have you ever felt the excitement of being enlightened about something? Have you ever felt the excitement of achieving a new level in life?

12. Use your talents

True happiness involves the full use of one’s power and talents.
Douglas Pagels

There are two lessons to take from this quote. First, you should find your talents and second, you should use them to the fullest. Working in your talents is a sure way to enjoy your work because it’s something you are “hardwired” to do. Using your talents fully will make you even happier because of the satisfaction of doing your best.

13. Beware of small things

The happiness of most people we know is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things.
Ernest Dimnet

Ding Ding Ding Ding…  Often it’s not big things that ruin your happiness. It’s the small things that do. Perhaps you don’t like someone or break some “small” promises. But even small leaks can sink your ship of happiness, so beware of them.

14. Make others happy

Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

The more you help other people and make them happy, the more you will be happy. Happiness doesn’t come through selfishness but through selflessness. You reap what you sow.

15. Practice compassion

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
The Dalai Lama

Compassion is perhaps the highest level of selflessness we could have. As this quote aptly says, practicing compassion can make both others and you happy.

But of course, it requires practice. Start with thinking about the people around you. Look at their needs and find ways to meet them. Even if you don’t do it out of compassion in the beginning, your compassion will grow over time.


Happiness depends upon ourselves.
Aristotle

It’s you who decide whether or not you are happy in life.

I choose to be happy.  What about you?

JEFF

Tagged as: Happiness, Happy, Self-Help, You

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